Gratitude. It’s not something that comes naturally to us. In fact, in today’s world of constant comparison, it’s certainly easier to be envious of what other people have than grateful for the blessings God has given us.
It’s true for our children—and, if we’re honest, it’s true for us as adults, too.
As parents, we’re our children’s first role models. Because of this, it’s important that we teach them how to be thankful for what we have instead of being jealous of what we don’t.
If you struggle with practicing gratitude, you’re not alone. Read on for five easy strategies to practice gratitude for parents.
How to Express Gratitude as Parents
Enriched by years of application in family counseling and great research surrounding the authoritative style of parenting, Dr. Daniel P. Huerta, Vice President of Family and Youth at Focus On The Family, a strategic partner of HopeConnect™, shares seven key traits parents can develop to become more effective caretakers, mentors and leaders for their children.
One of these is gratitude.
In his book, Seven Traits of Effective Parenting, Dr. Huerta explains that gratitude is “the ability to appreciate what you have rather than agonize about what you don’t have.”
Here are five key exercises to help you cultivate a grateful heart as a parent.
1. Be a noticer.
God is a constant source of goodness in our lives. Notice what He has done for you and your family and who He uses to minister to you.
2. Appreciate what you’ve got.
Our children grow up quickly, and our lives can change in an instant. Be grateful for what you have today because it’s a divine blessing from the Lord.
3. Take pictures.
Life’s bigger story is shaped by small moments. Take pictures to document the overarching story of your family’s life and reflect on them later.
4. Be genuine.
Offer genuine smiles to the people you meet, and be willing to accept others as full, complete beings made in the image of God.
5. Be patient.
By being patient, you can allow emotions to flow properly in and out of you. That way, you can have more accurate perceptions and memories of your life.
KEY TAKEAWAY
Being a grateful parent takes practice. Expressing thankfulness, even in small everyday moments, creates a positive family atmosphere and equips your children to handle challenges with a thankful mindset.
ACTIVITY
Every day, God showers us with good gifts. Reflect on all the ways God blessed you and your family today by playing Build a Blessing Burger around the dinner table. Find this game and more now in the Everyday Moments™ activities collection!
APPLICATION QUESTIONS
- What is one area of your life where you struggle to express gratitude? Ask God to reveal to you why that is.
- Which of these strategies can you incorporate into your life this week? Commit to one and share it with an accountability partner.
KEY VERSE
And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.
PRAYER
Dear Lord, thank You for everything You have done for my family and me. In the good times and in the most trying of times, You are faithful. Please cultivate in me a heart of gratitude so I can model it for my children. In Jesus’ name, amen.
