As Father’s Day draws near, we recognize the unparalleled contributions of dads, especially those who guide their child’s hurting hearts in overcoming trauma.
Father’s Day powerfully evokes the hope and healing that fathers, father figures, and those remembering their dads bring. For me, there’s a special anticipation—not just for the fun gifts, but also for the deep honor of being called “Daddy” by my three children: Olivia (9), Justice (6), and Andy (3).
Each of their births transformed my world, drawing me into a deeper encounter with God’s love and the hope found in His word: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1a)
A father’s love mirrors the profound connection we have with our Heavenly Father. As God does with us, our presence in our children’s lives helps build resilience, safety and trust, emotional healing, and instills identity and hope.
Dads as Pillars of Resilience
Wherever you find yourself today, please know how valuable you are, Dad! Findings from the CDC and Barna Group emphasize the vital role fathers play, particularly in supporting children who’ve experienced trauma.
There is a direct correlation to the precious influence of fathers and their children’s healing. The CDC Data on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) shows children facing trauma of abuse, neglect, or household dysfunction are more prone to mental and physical health issues.
However, the CDC highlights that a caring, supportive adult is one of the most powerful protective factors. Dads who are present, engaged, and emotionally available can help buffer the effects of trauma, building resilience and hope.
The Power of Presence
Fathers don’t have to be perfect. What matters most is being present, consistent, and loving. The steady presence of a father can positively impact children who have experienced trauma by:
- Modeling Healthy Relationships: Children learn how to trust and connect with others.
- Promoting Emotional Healing: Dads who listen and empathize help children process difficult emotions.
- Instilling Hope and Identity: A father’s affirmation helps children see themselves as loved and valued.
Findings from Barna’s research on Family and Relationships also show a strong connection between involved fathers and children flourishing in emotional, academic, and spiritual areas. The presence of a loving dad increases a child’s sense of security and belonging, which is especially critical for those recovering from trauma.
A Father is First a Son
When I first saw each of my kids’ faces, I was struck by how much they reminded me of myself. If I, with all my imperfections, can feel such overwhelming love for my children, how much more does our Heavenly Father love us?
“Because you are his sons, God sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, ‘Abba, Father.” Galatians 4:6)
This truth—fathers are sons first—has been a liberating force on my journey as a dad. Being loved sons ourselves grounds our identity as fathers.
As we celebrate Father’s Day, let’s remember: a father is first a son.
So, as Dads we must reflect the love of God toward us. Our ability to love, protect, and nurture our children flows from the love we’ve received—both from our earthly fathers and, more importantly, our Heavenly Father.
Remember and reflect on the great love your Heavenly Father has lavished on you. And then lavish it on your children. Your presence, your love, and your faithfulness are making a difference, especially in helping them heal from trauma.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads, father figures, and mentors creating resilience, hope, and a loving legacy, one day at a time.
